Future of Black Women and Girls

This post is deeply personal to me. I've gone from being a lifelong "people pleaser" to decentering others' needs and fully centering my own. For as long as I can remember, my role has been to support others, a part of my upbringing that led me to neglect myself for years. It wasn’t until my late 20s that I started focusing on myself. At the time, I didn’t fully realize what I was doing, but I knew that taking time for myself was essential. I remember vividly working a job I despised. I wasn’t in the best mental space and needed to figure out a way to reclaim some peace. I created a sanctuary in my closet—a small space where I’d go after work to write, journal, and just  be . This daily ritual became something I eagerly looked forward to: a time to meditate, reflect, and recover. In hindsight, this was the foundation of my journey toward true independence and self-reliance. I found joy in my solitude, a time to think for myself and reflect on my day. Even though there...

 I want to be clear: this space won't resonate with every Black woman or girl—and that’s okay. This is a space centered on women and girls who aim to build a more fruitful future for Black women and girls. While we’ve made strides, I believe our progress has been slow, not because of a lack of effort, but due to the attempt to bring others along with us. While this has led to some progress, it has also derailed our momentum. By not fully centering ourselves, we haven’t achieved the results we truly desire. I can’t unsee the fact that we’ve tried to bring about change alongside men, but our fight is not the same. In fact, I’d argue that men and women are essentially different. As a society, we’ve been trying to force and normalize coexistence, but honestly, women have been getting the short end of the stick. Women have suffered at the hands of men at every turn. It’s something I’ve observed: society has duped us into believing we can all coexist and be happy, yet the happiness they ...

Lately, I've been deeply immersed in my creative flow, embracing a new challenge: operating with ease while still accomplishing the tasks I set for myself each day. Every morning, I start by setting my intentions—defining a clear purpose before I even begin. Although I’m still adjusting to this schedule and discovering my rhythm, I’m learning to trust myself more. I’ve noticed that once I start and focus kicks in, I’m able to achieve what I set out to do. Framing my goals as intentions has changed my perspective, allowing me to approach each day with clarity. Before setting my schedule and writing out my to-do list, I now take a deliberate pause. This ensures that the tasks I plan are realistic and achievable.  What started as a simple routine has become something I genuinely look forward to every morning and afternoon. It’s a chance to track my progress, reflect on daily distractions, and identify areas for improvement. And, if I’m being honest, one of my biggest challenges ha...

Its September 5, 2024 and well, its been a time gettings started however, here we are. I am thankful for the progress I continue to make daily. At times, if I'm honest, it can be slow and challenging BUT I am working on changing that. This post, marks a point where I refuse to over think it and just simply take action. To take action, is to move toward my goals. However sometimes, this can look a little different for me. Sometimes, I struggle with knowing which actions are the right actions? I will tell you since I've left my 9-5, this continues to be a question I ask myself, a question that I still find myself looming over. I know that action must be taken but how do I know what's the "right" action for me. For my path? Can anyone even tell me that? I know that my business ventures don't even reflect a lot of the conventional steps that society processes. What I mean is, I reconize there are many patterns and steps people tend to take that meet a specific typ...

It's 2024, and the world continues to be in the midst of a major shift. From the way we work to the way we live, everything is changing. I am grateful for the change, even though my situation is less than ideal. However, I find gratitude in the simplicity of life. I know things could be more challenging, so I find the courage to be grateful even when things don’t go as planned. Intuitively, I feel a strong pull to write my book. Personally, I don’t consider myself much of a writer, but if I’m honest, when I reflect on my life over time, one thing remains consistent: writing. Ever since I can remember, writing has been a part of my life. From a high school instructor who made daily writing a requirement to passing notes with friends in a three-ring binder, writing has been something I’ve always done—and it seems to have stuck with me. I’ve spent a few days thinking about it, and I’ve decided I’m just going to go for it. It’s not as if I don’t have something to say—because I do. The ...

I think I'm caught in the whirlwind of driven behavior, causing me to avoid dealing with the things I don't want to face. Catching myself and hearing this woman recount the signs of this behavior really hit me in the face. I was online searching for this moment, this feeling, after receiving an email from a company advising me that they would be moving forward with another candidate. Typically, I am not bothered by this, as it's part of the process when it comes to career searching, and I know it's all par for the course. What makes this time different is that I want to catch myself, to recognize this feeling. What am I really doing? The truth is, it's something I've done for a long time to cope. Sometimes, I feel like I'm afraid to have those open blocks of time. It can even be pretty uncomfortable for me. However, I am going to counteract this behavior by setting a goal for the end of the week: to give myself three tasks a day to fulfill every day next wee...

It’s been quite the week… I would say the past two weeks. I have essentially started two more businesses while also continuing to think up ideas and consider the future of Black women and girls and what that will look like for us. I will say that something has to change, and fast. I continue to listen to stories of women of color all around the world who continue to have the same, if not very similar, experiences when working in corporate “traditional” America. It’s like this time of me facing the fact that it’s simply the fact that its not us, its this “system” we’ve all been forced to participate in. Not to mention while many others tend to receive some degree of support that same support lacks severely for the majority of black women. What concerns me is the fact we have young girls who continue to come behind us and are too being subjected to this same very volatile behavior while trying to create a life of stability in a system that’s severely unstable for herself. It makes me ask...